Are your kids driving you crazy??

Fleur Dash • 5 February 2021

Coping with the lockdown homeschooling HELL!

Are your kids driving you CRAZY????

What a year! Bouncing between lockdowns and homeschooling HELL!

This lockdown has been particularly tough, February blues, hideous weather and the never ending dark evenings.

Do you find yourself snapping at your children? Feeling at the end of your tether? Overwhelmed by the simplest of things going wrong?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!

You love and adore your family. Of course you do. But constantly having to pull them off of screens, make them do school work, fight off their protests and fits of rage is just getting TOO MUCH, let alone dealing with your normal commitments of work AND having to cook and clean!

No wonder we all feel we are going to EXPLODE.

It really helps to understand what is going on in the brain during these super stressful moments.

When we feel anxious, overwhelmed and snappy, it is a sure sign that we have moved from our reliable, sensible part of the brain, into the automatic, reactive primitive part of the brain. This part is ruled by the amygdala, and is often referred to as the flight, flight, freeze “chimp” part of the brain. When we operate from this part of the brain, we are feeling the need to defend ourselves from danger or a threat. We will always respond with anxiety (get ready to run), depression (hunker down and hide) or anger (increase strength to fight).

So rationally, we know that the children are not really a threat, (even when armed with nerf guns) but the situation, or rather the way we are seeing the situation, is making us feel that we are under attack. Focusing on all the things going wrong will stop us from seeing all the things that are going right.



Taking some time to reconnect with your family in a positive way enables us to see the world from a different light. Positive interaction increases our flow of the happy serotonin chemical, and pulls us away from our primitive brains, and back into thinking rationally. 


Spending a moment thinking about what makes that person so special is another way to switch us back into our right minds. Positive thought is so powerful, thinking about something great makes the world seem a different place instantly.


Doing something positive is another way to get the magic juices flowing. I like to keep a gratitude journal so I can see all the positives in front of me. This simple act of writing down a few happy notes makes me focus on the best bits of my life.


Getting out of the vicious cycle of negative thinking is what solution focused hypnotherapy is all about. Book a FREE initial consultation to see how I can help you feel yourself again.


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