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Create an anchor to help with anxiety and depression

Fleur Dash • 23 June 2021

How to create an emotional anchor to help with anxiety and depression



Have you ever wished you could just bottle that amazing feeling? That moment when you felt so perfectly calm, happy at one with the world and completely in the moment. This is why we take photographs isn’t it? To capture the moment. We look at a picture, and it reminds us of all of the sensations we felt. The problem with photos is that they end up stored, just like the memory, dusty, put in an album, left in a folder, even the ones we frame we don’t always remember to look at. 

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we had another way, a way we could access at any time? 

There is a magic tool we use in hypnotherapy to do exactly that, it is a NLP technique called anchoring. And it is super simple to learn.

First of all, you need to decide, what emotion would you like to capture? What resource would it be brilliant to have, literally at your fingertips?  Imagine yourself in the happiness shop, looking through the bottles of calm, serenity, relaxation, bravery, contentment or confidence… You can choose anything you want.

When you have decided the feeling you want, you simply need to remember a time you last felt this way. Make it a really strong memory.

Now the lovely relaxation bit (can this get any better?). 

Close your eyes, while lightly touching your finger and thumb together. This stimulus is known as your trigger. 

Really think about your chosen memory, think about it from all of your 5 senses. What can you see? Hear? Any tastes? Smells? Textures? Really allow yourself to be in that memory.

As you access the feeling related with the memory, imagine turning up the brightness. Really feel that positive emotion flood through you.

As you do this, tightly press the finger and thumb together to capture the feeling. As it subsides, gently release the pressure and take a breath.

You are going to repeat this a few times, each time it will be easier to see more details in the memory, as you are now used to the process. Allow yourself to embrace the euphoria as you play with turning up the colour or the volume, enhancing this perfect memory.

To set this anchor, on your last capture, you simply need to take a deep breath in and out while holding your trigger tightly. This breath is giving your subconscious brain permission to save the emotional resource, ready, whenever you need it. 

So now you literally have a moment of joy at your fingertips. Try it. The more you press this trigger, the stronger the connection between the feeling and the stimulus becomes.

Why not try creating another emotional resource anchor with the other hand? Or on your knee? You can decide to save many different anchors all over your body, trigger points you can subtly use in any situation you might need an extra boost.

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Smiling is not something we learn to do, it comes completely naturally as it is a behaviour passed down through our evolution. It is thought to have originated over 30 million years ago and was used by apes and monkeys as a way of showing potential predators they were harmless. The smile we know today is the universal sign of happiness. It is one of the first expressions made by babies innately. . The baby is usually rewarded for this smile with mirroring smiles, love and attention. The behaviour becomes reinforced with feelings of pleasure and safety. This is true of all babies regardless of culture and environment, as Paul Ekman (the world’s leading expert on facial expressions) discovered; smiling is a basic and biological uniform human expression. Charles Darwin, who in addition to theorising on evolution in The Origin of the Species , also developed the Facial Feedback Response Theory, which suggests that the act of smiling actually makes us feel better (rather than smiling being a result of feeling good). When our brains feel happy we produce neurotransmitters that make us feel good. Dopamine, serotonin and endorphins are released transmitting neural signals to your facial muscles to trigger a smile. The release of serotonin with a smile is nature's own anti-depressant. It helps give our mood a lift in the same way the prescribed medication works by increasing the level of serotonin in the brain. Smiling stimulates our brain's reward mechanisms in a way that even chocolate can’t match. British researchers found that one smile can provide the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 chocolate bars and can be as stimulating as receiving up to £16,000. The smile can be thought of as an “anchor”, it is a feeling that has been anchored to a particular group of muscles that is triggered when we use them. I’m sure you have put a smile on your face to help you to enter a room or when meeting someone new. This is because you get the same benefits when you actually force yourself to smile as you do when you smile naturally, this feeling encourages us when we need a boost. We create anchors unconsciously all the time when we assign meaning to a particular sensation, such as when a song always reminds you of a certain memory or person. Anchors are a very useful tool I use with my clients as we can learn to connect other feelings to other triggers on the body. By thinking about a calm time using all of our senses, we create a strong emotional link to that feeling of calm . Doing this while squeezing our fingers or holding our wrists literally makes a physical connection to that emotion. Repeating this over and over makes a new neural path in the brain, thus making a new anchor. The brain can only focus on a handful of items of information at any time (around 7), so while it is concentrating and recalling calm , it is unable to connect with any other input such as stress or worry. This is a brilliant way to train the brain into being in your control, thinking of happy thoughts and letting go of everything else.
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