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The magic of Christmas

Fleur Dash • 13 December 2021

Christmas!

What does it mean to you?

This can be the most stressful time of year for so many of us.

We can try to fit all the extra little jobs into our already stuffed lives, Getting the house immaculate, precision tinsel positioning, essential ribbon flourishing. Getting everything “perfect”, to create the most “magical” day. 

We can overspend on trinkets and gifts, worrying whether this is the right expression of love, that it shows we are thoughtful and generous, the flawless friend.  Knowing deep down that the present will be shoved to the back of a cupboard somewhere, and January’s overdraft will be a deep reflective crevasse. 

We can go crazy on rich foods, truffle chocolates, luxury mince pies, bowls of nibbles and dips. A deserved treat right? And surely a little glass of something is only to be expected, well, it is Christmas! A high hit of dopamine to counteract the pressure we are putting on ourselves.

Don’t get me wrong, I do all of these things. I love Christmas. I feel it just can be very easy to lose sight of the point of it all as we apply the extra stress and pressure on ourselves.

Creating perfection is an unachievable feat, and therefore leaves all of us feeling like we should be doing more! That everyone else is doing it better! That we are not quite good enough!

These thoughts and feelings flood us with stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline, and leave us feeling anxious and depressed. These emotions are completely normal reactions to feeling the pressure of being “perfect”. 

Luckily, we all have the ability to choose our thoughts. 

If you find your mind invaded with these negative thoughts, look instead for something to be grateful for. 

If we change the focus on feeling GRATITUDE we don’t need the extra little things to give us that happiness feeling. Concentrate on all that we do have, the love of our friends and family, the warmth of our homes, the twinkly lights and the crisp smell of winter. When we think about what we are grateful for, we are sending serotonin through our brain’s neurons. This powerful neurotransmitter is responsible for our feelings of calm, peace and happiness. When we saturate our minds with serotonin, we turn off the stress hormones that can swamp us so easily.

Perfection is an unrealistic state. Be kind to yourself, you are more than enough. 

Have a very happy Christmas

Xx

🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈


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