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The meaning of Life

Fleur Dash • 13 March 2023

Have you ever stopped and thought about how much we have changed since we crawled out of caves? How have we evolved from grunting hairy beasts into intelligent purposeful people?


Primitive humans shared so many of the same emotions and feelings, needs and wants as us. They would have experienced joy, happiness, fear and sadness, but they had to fight for survival. They had to hunt, and had to find shelter. They had to be tough and brave. 


To help with their adversaries they were given the happiness hormone to strengthen them to conquer their challenges. Everytime they built a relationship, created a tool or used intellectual thinking they experienced a rush of serotonin that encouraged them to do something else bravely, creatively and with love. Without this feeling, no doubt we wouldn’t be here today.


Even now, we are still evolving. We still use the happiness neurotransmitter to guide us towards activities that give us pleasure, peace, accomplishment, purpose and hope.


As we follow our pleasure hormones, we build on the experiences of others, adding on, improving, creating tiny changes in thoughts, actions and idealisms. We use the teachings of our ancestors to continue to develop new skills and new resources. We enhance our knowledge with our own experiences, making us combinedly responsible for the ideas that are created indirectly as we vibrate together.


Issac Newton and Albert Einstein were both influenced by scholars and scientists. They were taught,  steered and moulded by the ideas of others. They built on their learnt knowledge, ignited, followed their passions and became dedicated to enquire and understand. Their discoveries led to more investigation. A chain of questions and answers, built on by each thinker and each concept.


We might not discover the next greatest invention or build upon the big bang theory, but we are all able to make a difference in our own unique way. The way we live our lives influences the lives of others directly and indirectly. We can choose a path that allows us to feel authentic and positive, thus inspiring others to do that too.


I believe this is the true meaning of life. We all have the option to create a positive impact in our own tiny way. Every action makes an indent, every smile or frown ripples, every idea is a potential inspiration. Having an understanding of the impact our own lives make can help us to make sense of the direction and choices we can take. 



Make sure your path feels true to you. Do what feels honest. Carve your influence with kindness and compassion. Your positive imprint will shape the building blocks of our descendants. This is the inheritance we pass down to the future generations.

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Why Smiling is so good for you

by Fleur Dash • 18 June 2024
Smiling is not something we learn to do, it comes completely naturally as it is a behaviour passed down through our evolution. It is thought to have originated over 30 million years ago and was used by apes and monkeys as a way of showing potential predators they were harmless. The smile we know today is the universal sign of happiness. It is one of the first expressions made by babies innately. . The baby is usually rewarded for this smile with mirroring smiles, love and attention. The behaviour becomes reinforced with feelings of pleasure and safety. This is true of all babies regardless of culture and environment, as Paul Ekman (the world’s leading expert on facial expressions) discovered; smiling is a basic and biological uniform human expression. Charles Darwin, who in addition to theorising on evolution in The Origin of the Species , also developed the Facial Feedback Response Theory, which suggests that the act of smiling actually makes us feel better (rather than smiling being a result of feeling good). When our brains feel happy we produce neurotransmitters that make us feel good. Dopamine, serotonin and endorphins are released transmitting neural signals to your facial muscles to trigger a smile. The release of serotonin with a smile is nature's own anti-depressant. It helps give our mood a lift in the same way the prescribed medication works by increasing the level of serotonin in the brain. Smiling stimulates our brain's reward mechanisms in a way that even chocolate can’t match. British researchers found that one smile can provide the same level of brain stimulation as up to 2,000 chocolate bars and can be as stimulating as receiving up to £16,000. The smile can be thought of as an “anchor”, it is a feeling that has been anchored to a particular group of muscles that is triggered when we use them. I’m sure you have put a smile on your face to help you to enter a room or when meeting someone new. This is because you get the same benefits when you actually force yourself to smile as you do when you smile naturally, this feeling encourages us when we need a boost. We create anchors unconsciously all the time when we assign meaning to a particular sensation, such as when a song always reminds you of a certain memory or person. Anchors are a very useful tool I use with my clients as we can learn to connect other feelings to other triggers on the body. By thinking about a calm time using all of our senses, we create a strong emotional link to that feeling of calm . Doing this while squeezing our fingers or holding our wrists literally makes a physical connection to that emotion. Repeating this over and over makes a new neural path in the brain, thus making a new anchor. The brain can only focus on a handful of items of information at any time (around 7), so while it is concentrating and recalling calm , it is unable to connect with any other input such as stress or worry. This is a brilliant way to train the brain into being in your control, thinking of happy thoughts and letting go of everything else.
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